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Different kinds of abuse

Different kinds of abuse
Prejudice
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Emotional abuse
Physical abuse
Sexual abuse
Domestic violence
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Different kinds of abuse

Sometimes you may not be sure if you are being abused or taken advantage of. How you feel at the time is the best way to figure it out. If you are uncomfortable or angry, that’s a sign that things aren’t right. It’s important to talk with someone you trust immediately to help work things out and stop abuse.

There are several different kinds of abuse including: neglect, emotional, physical or sexual abuse, domestic violence, rape or other crimes.

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Prejudice

Prejudice happens when someone treats people unfairly or cruelly because of their race, religion, nationality or sexual orientation. Most of them believe their prejudice is normal and acceptable, but it is not. They will insult, threaten or hurt you or cause damage to your property.

You can email us at help@covenanthouse.ca and one of our counsellors will get back to you, Monday to Friday, 9 to 5.

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Neglect

Neglect is child abuse and can cause serious harm.

It happens when a parent or guardian:

  • Abandons you
  • Causes you to be homeless
  • Does not supervise you
  • Does not send you to school
  • Does not help you get medical and dental care
  • Does not provide you with enough food, safe shelter, and/or proper clothing
  • Leaves you alone for a long period of time or does not participate in your life

If you are 15 or under, Children's Aid can help. Find an Ontario Children's Aid in your area here.

If you are 16 or older, email us at help@covenanthouse.on.ca and one of our counsellor can help you get the support you need, Monday to Friday, 9 to 5.

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Emotional abuse

Emotional abuse happens when a parent or other person responsible for your well-being uses words and feelings to lash out, embarrass, shame, insult or reject you. People who use this kind of abuse are after one thing – control. Emotional abuse happens over months or years and it can damage self-esteem and lead to depression. It can be hard to notice the harm until time passes.

Emotional abuse may include:

  • Shouting or name calling
  • Threatening to take away the phone, car or money without reason
  • Disrespecting you all the time by putting you down, or not listening or responding to you when you talk
  • Keeping you from talking with or seeing friends and relatives
  • Ignoring you for hours or leaving you alone for days

If you are 15 or under, Children's Aid can help. Find an Ontario Children's Aid in your area here.

If you are 16 or older, email us at help@covenanthouse.on.ca and one of our counsellor can help you get the support you need, Monday to Friday, 9 to 5.

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Physical abuse

Physical abuse happens when a parent or another person injures you, even if they didn’t mean to hurt you as badly as they did – for example, in a fight or as punishment.

The harm may include:

  • Visible injuries like bruises, welts and cuts; human bite marks; burns (for example from cigarettes, irons, hot liquids or ropes); displaced or broken bones; swelling
  • Internal injuries, which can be seen through tests and X-rays, like bleeding or torn muscles, pain, dizziness or faintness
  • A "near miss" such as when you're able to move quickly and escape harm (This can be difficult to prove, but if you think your parent would have seriously injured you, it is abuse.)

If you are 15 or under, Children's Aid can help. Find an Ontario Children's Aid in your area here.

If you are 16 or older, email us at help@covenanthouse.on.ca and one of our counsellor can help you get the support you need, Monday to Friday, 9 to 5.

If you are in immediate danger, phone 911.

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Sexual abuse

Sexual abuse occurs when a parent or another adult involves you in any sexual activity.

Sexual abuse can sometimes be avoided when you tell the person firmly to stop. Sometimes they don’t know they are behaving badly, so speak up when their actions don’t feel right.

Sexual abuse includes:

  • Being touched or held in a way that makes you uncomfortable, even after you have told them to stop
  • Being fondled, touched, kissed, stroked or rubbed on or near the butt, breasts or genitals
  • Being asked or forced to touch the adult on or near the butt, breasts or genitals
  • Being forced to watch the adult touch themselves (masturbate) or to watch others have sex or when they watch you do these things
  • Being asked or forced to have sex or oral sex

If you or someone you know is being sexually abused, there's is help.

If you are 15 or under, Children's Aid can help. Find an Ontario Children's Aid in your area here.

If you are 16 or older, email us at help@covenanthouse.on.ca and one of our counsellor can help you get the support you need, Monday to Friday, 9 to 5.

If you are in immediate danger, phone 911.

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Domestic violence

Domestic violence is when there is a lot of fighting in your home, which can lead to violence and abuse.

As a member of the family, you may see any or all of the above happening to another family member (parent, step-parent, sibling, grandparent), or it may be happening to you.

If you are 15 or under, Children's Aid can help. Find an Ontario Children's Aid in your area here.

If you are 16 or older, email us at help@covenanthouse.on.ca and one of our counsellor can help you get the support you need, Monday to Friday, 9 to 5.

If you are in immediate danger, phone 911.

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Rape

Rape and date rape happen when a stranger or someone you know forces you to have sex against your will. It is important to seek help immediately if you are raped by calling 911 and going to your local hospital emergency room – before showering or bathing. You should ask for a rape exam so the hospital can gather evidence of the crime, contact the police and offer you counselling.

If you think you have been the victim of date rape drugs or "roofies" (tasteless, odourless and colourless drugs that make you incapable of saying "no" to sex), ask the hospital to test you for these drugs immediately because they leave your system without a trace within 72 hours.

If you were raped in the past and need to talk about it, email us at help@covenanthouse.ca and one of our counsellor can refer you to get the support you need, Monday to Friday, 9 to 5.

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Other crimes

Other crimes that cause you harm are considered abuse as well. Even if you were the victim of abuse a long time ago, there are people who can help you deal with the crime and regain control of your life. Email us at help@covenanthouse.ca and one of our counsellor can refer you to get the support you need, Monday to Friday, 9 to 5.

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