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Different kinds of relationship problems

Friendships
Dating a boyfriend or girlfriend
Authority figures

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Do I have a relationship problem?

Friendships

Friendships should be supportive, respectful and based on common interests. But sometimes jealousy, possessiveness and control issues can threaten to break up a friendship.

Try talking with your friend about why the friendship isn’t working for you anymore. If they won’t take the time to listen and try to work things out, you may realize you have outgrown this friendship. It is hard to admit this and, sometimes, losing a friend can make you feel hurt or depressed.

Remember that as you grow and change, so will your interests and your choice of friends.

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Dating a boyfriend or girlfriend

Dating a boyfriend or girlfriend is an important experience like getting to know a friend. A good relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend is based on mutual respect, shared interests and attraction.

Sometimes relationships with a boyfriend or girlfriend go sour. People have different wants and needs in a relationship. Jealousy, possessiveness, anger or power trips can spoil the romance. You and your partner may be mature enough to talk about these problems and work them out by yourselves or with the help of someone you trust.

Generally, dating should be exciting and fun, so if you and your partner don’t have the skills to work things out, be careful not to settle for a relationship that isn’t fair to you.

Just because you are young doesn’t mean that you can’t find yourself in an abusive relationship. If your relationship gets out of control, here are a few tips:

1.      Tell a trusted adult immediately, and ask for help getting out of the relationship.
2.      If you are afraid of your partner, try not to go places where you are alone together.
3.      Don't let your partner enter your home or car when no one else is around.
4.      Call 911 if you need immediate help to keep you safe.
5.      Email one of our counsellors at help@covenanthouse.ca. We will reply Monday to Friday, 9 to 5.

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Authority figures

Authority figures, like a teacher, boss, mentor, religious leader, step-parent or a counsellor can sometimes take advantage of their positions of power.

Normally these are people you should look up to and trust to help you make important decisions in your life. But if an authority figure is physically, sexually or emotionally abusive, you need to tell someone you trust. When someone under the age of 18 is physically, sexually or emotionally hurt or taken advantage of by someone responsible for protecting them, it is considered child abuse.

Child abuse is against the law. It is never your fault and no one ever has the right to do it. Often abuse will continue until you or someone else tells someone who can help to stop it.

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